Do you have excessive or unwanted anxiety? Do you wish you were more confident and relaxed? Do you want to be able to take on new situations and experiences without fear?
If you suffer from any kind of worry there are ways to soothe yourself, calm yourself and relax your mind.
Confidence and self esteem are the ways we get noticed in our society.
Employers hire and promote confident, engaging people more readily and confident men and women find dating and meeting potential mates a lot easier.
There are so many facets of life where fear can hamper you. Getting rid of or controlling the apprehension can have a profoundly positive effect on your life.
Anxiety is our body’s normal reaction to uncomfortable stimulus.
Uneasiness can crop up in a wide variety of situations, some of them common, some of them not. You could become exceptionally nervous when talking to your boss, talking to a pretty girl or handsome guy or driving to work.
You can experience anxiety anywhere; in the supermarket, at the movie theater, at your friends wedding or at your child’s school play. You could have a panic attack at the hair salon, while getting a manicure or talking to friends.
Anxiety is not simply fear. Fear is a focused, directed feeling about a person, object or event that could possibly occur. You’re afraid when you walk in a dark alley alone at night. You are afraid when you’re child is seriously ill in the hospital.
These are rational, concrete things to be fearful of. The angst you are struggling with is often an undefined feeling; you really can’t focus in on exactly what you are so worried about.
The feeling is more a product of your own mind than any external stimulus causing you to feel that way. If you boss approaches you with a smile, why are you so fretful? What has he done that has made you feel so worried? Nothing, it is a product of you overactive mind.
Stop feeling so anxious without reason, stop obsessing over what ifs and maybes and focus on the good parts of your life and what is probable, not merely possible. Stop the heart palpitations, the rapid breathing, the excessive sweating, the nausea, nervousness and general feelings of dread that can wash over you during times of anxiety.
The secret is simply pushing more positive thoughts into your head. Rather than thinking your boss’s smile is a reflection of his glee at the opportunity to fire you this afternoon, try to put a more rational explanation to that smile, that he is happy to see you, is greeting you and is pleased with you. After all, if your spouse or child smiled at you, you wouldn’t think they were getting ready to throw you under a bus.
A good way to actually help you match positive, rational thoughts to the actions and situations you encounter throughout the day is to find outlets for your nervous energy. Start an exercise program and let off some of the steam and stress this way rather than letting your imagination run on wild adventures. Leave the overactive imagination to the fiction writers of the world and try to rein in your thoughts where possible.
[Photo: “I still doubt myself every single day. … What people believe is my self-confidence is actually my reaction to fear.” Will Smith – from the page Self-esteem / Self concept.]
Bertil Hjert is author of the Panic Goodbye program.
This program includes 7 eBooks about relieving Panic and Anxiety Attacks, Agoraphobia, OCD, and Social Phobia; using Abdominal Breathing & Meditation, Body & Mind relaxation, and Yoga & Progressive Muscle Relaxation.